Living with Cerebral Palsy and Intersectionality

I would walk past this image at the end of the basement stairs for more years than I can actually remember. I didn't realize that a photograph of this collage of photos would be my remaining memory of it. It's a time capsule of family and home; of what is broken and gone. It illustrates my struggling entry into this world as a premature newborn with CP, it illustrates the fragments and pieces of what I know of my parents' story as a union, it has images of the places that I always wanted to be and the places that I once called home that I can't go back to anymore, it carries reminders of the religion I left behind that I once thought saved my parents, and of a time before I didn't like winter.  Then, “The twistin' of the knife, the bend until they break. And then it all goes wrong” (Noah Cyrus, “I Just Want a Lover”). A Kellogg family Christmas has been a lot of things, a collection of voices, much like the Cyrus family quotes herein. When I see my m...

“Say that you want me, I know you don't. No you don't, cause you don't know. What I've been through, led me to you. You found me, I was broken. You let a little bit of hope in. But you, you broke me too” (Yellowcard and Avril Lavigne, “You Broke Me Too”).  Most of the things I've really wanted in life haven't lasted very long. Sometimes that's my fault. Sometimes it's not. One of the things that I'm learning to overcome in myself is that need for external validation and the role that that has played usually in interpersonal relationships.  But, it plays its part in other ways too, like when I used to write about theology back in the day. Oh boy, did I live for your reaction to it. That's the whole reason I even wrote a piece on the gender of God because I wanted to say it in a way to get people to react and it did. What about being on the stage with a guitar in my hand and a mic in my face? What about preaching the Thanksgiving sermon and having ...

“Well, it’s all right, every day is Judgment Day. Maybe somewhere down the road always (at the end of the line)” (Traveling Wilburys. “End of the Line”). I was first introduced to this band when I was 18 years old. Playing in a band with three guys my senior that they dubbed, “The Old Farts and the Peep.” However, it was for a different song on this same album. I was introduced to “End of the Line” in the rooms. Today, I’m listening to it as I write this post. Not because I plan to tell you about the rooms (those are intentionally anonymous). Instead, it is because I’m looking at a picture of myself within the first eight days of life. And, the front of the line was pretty fucking close to the end of the line. I’ve been “doing the best I can” ever since. If you recall, I was born two months premature. If everything had aligned perfectly, I would have been born on my mother’s birthday. Instead, being born so early I was just 3 pounds, 11 ounces. Those first eight days were p...